I recollected one of my meeting with a friend and thought of sharing it here. When I saw my friend he seemed depressed and frustrated, and soon realised it was because he had lost quite a bit of money in the stock market. But he could not vent the frustration in any way. He suggested we go to the movie Jurassic Park - II, I said the review for the movie was not so great besides the novelty factor wasn’t there it would probably be same as part-I. He said he knew the reviews were bad but wanted to go to the movie so that when he could shout to vent his frustration, since the sound would be loud and it would be dark in the theatre nobody would notice that someone is shouting. Of course, we never tried it :). It makes me laugh even today when I recollect how he could get such an idea. But I think it wasn’t a bad idea :)

 On a serious note, it is good to blow your top once in a while, there is no point in bottling up frustration. As they say we are what we think, if we are frustrated about something avoiding confrontation will not solve the problem, it has to be dealt with sooner or later. We always tend to maintain status quo as we do not want to make things worse, but if things are not set right they begin to play on our mind and it will affect our actions subconsciously and make things worse anyway.

There are times you just cannot stand someone and feel like retorting back but for the sake of some reasons we hold back. There are instances when I have gone into a shell to avoid bad arguments. There are instances when I have given someone a piece of my mind, but I always regret having done that, whether I was at fault or someone else, I just regret having got into an bad argument and it lasts for days before the feeling slowly fades away. Time is a great healer at least in some cases.

Here is how I try to deal with such scenarios, if the problem seems to be temporary and I have no way to change things, I take this in my stride even if it frustrates me, try to focus on things that will help instead or take a break or talk to friends, listen to their suggestions but I decide what has to done. If the problem has long term consequences, will get into action right away, try to solve the problem through dialogue or any sensible means that can improve the scenario, even if I know that it cannot be turned around in my favor I try whatever I think is the best solution in that scenario, it may not work but at least will learn something in the process of trying and also have  the satisfaction of having given my best shot.